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Sunday, March 26, 2017

Last Winter, Last Breath, Final Goodbye

It was Friday, March 10th, when we got a call about my  father-in-law.  I was  attending a school mass at church where the bishop was the officiating priest and my son was reading at the mass so he wanted me there.  For some reason, I was uneasy inside the church while the mass is going on.  The  unexplained feeling lasted until the mass  was over.   After giving my kids a hug, I went out the door and I was surprised to see my husband waiting for me at the side of the church.  I thought he wasn't feeling well so he came home from work. 
 I learned  from him that his sister have called our home phone and his niece texted her that Dad  had turned for the worse.  I was surprised to learned about it because  he was getting better  when they last told us  about him although he was still in the hospital and recovering.
 So we went to the hospital where all of the  family were there   already and saying their goodbyes.  The doctor talked to all of us and advised us that he will be  transferred  to the hospice  and that they would do everything to  make him comfortable.  The doctor told us that his  internal organ is  starting to shut down that's why he is having a hard time  breathing.
 It was hard seeing my father-in-law in such condition.  It might  seem harsh  but I prayed  to God to end his suffering and let him rest in peace.  He took his last breath  the next day.
 My FIL took his last breath at Trinity  hospital surrounded by his family.  It was his  last winter here on earth.  I was  thankful that he is no longer in pain.  He can be with his sweetheart and two sons on the other side.
 We said our final goodbyes to him on March 15th  at Chapel Hill Memorial, it was a very cold day.   The freezing weather  did not hinder from people in attending his funeral.  We were surprised to see a lot have attended even his former neighbors.
 This was my second time attending a funeral on a very cold day.  My first was my husband's  oldest brother who died of cancer.   I take cold weather as a sign from up there  that  memories  will be forever cherished.
 As a world war 2 veteran, my FIL was honored by a 21-gun salute.  We thank  the honor guard who came and  did the ceremony.
 The young guy who   folded the   flag was crying even and he doesn't even know my FIL.  The flag is  normally given to the  female  member of the family but my sister-in-law  decided to give it to my husband.  She said that it would be fitting for my husband to receive it since he  is a veteran as well,
 I would like to share this  poem written and published by a conservative poet Tom Zart, the most published poet  on the web.  It's title bravery.
Many brave souls lived before now, 
Unwept and unknown by their face. 
Lost somewhere in the distant night, 
'Till a poet chronicles their grace.  
True bravery is shown by performing, 
Without witness, what one might be 
Capable of before the world, 
Without any or all to see.
How great the brave who rest in peace, 
All blessings from heaven to earth. 
They gave our country but their best, 
Those destined to be brave from birth.
 I also would like to share this beautiful poem written by Jamey Wysocki entitled "I Am Learning How To Live by"
I am learning how to live
In a new way
Since that day
You were taken away.
I am learning how to live
With the things left unsaid
Knowing I got to say them
With every tear that I shed.
I am learning how to live
By embracing the pain
Knowing that you live on
Through the memories that remain.
I am learning how to live
Knowing I will never again see your face
And I have peace knowing
You’re in a better place.
I am learning how to live
Knowing you’re in God’s care
It gives me the strength to move on
And makes the pain much easier to bear.
 I am so glad that  winter is over and that my FIL is now in peace and no longer suffering.  It gives us peace as well knowing that he is now  with the love of his life.
On another note, let's talk about weather, shall we?  The first week of Spring was still freezing.  All the   plants that started to bud have wilted  since that last snow fall.  I was suppose to get this heater/fan  in early February but the shipment got lost so I am just now  given the chance to test it.
 This dual zone oscillating heater with remote will be perfect  for my laundry room as it stays  cold  down there.  I always  shiver when I am doing laundry.  This would  have been a perfect thing that we could have used when we were working at our detached garage last winter.  We built some  storage  area  there  so we could arrange all of our stuff that we usually use  outdoors and for maintaining the vehicles.
 This dual zone oscillating ceramic heater and tower fan is  engineered to provide rapid heat on a wintry night, and non-heated airflow for relief on a hot summer day, with a programmable 12-hour timer.  So we could use this during summer time as well when we are working at the garage.  We still have to built storage on the other side of it since we couldn't finish doing it last winter, it was too cold and our portable  heater wasn't enough to warm us all up.
Just like Ozeri's  tower fans, this ultra thin space-saving design enhances room decor and features a touch button LED display.  It has an extended range remote control unit, and an elegant sturdy glass base that reduces accidental tip-over.  You can buy this on amazon.  It might not be the item you want to buy now that the winter is over but you can always use it for the next winter season.
Disclosure: The owner of this blog was NOT financially compensated to write this review.  I was provided with the product/s mentioned  to help me  facilitate this review but  opinions are my own.

19 Smart Readers SAID::

Masshole Mommy said...

I've seen it snow in May before, so we are not putting away our snow gear for at least another month! I will be so glad when winter is FINALLY gone.

Alli Smith said...

So sorry for the loss of your FIL and thankful for his service to his country. My mom passed away almost a year ago and I know how hard it is to say goodbye.

Candace Kage said...

What a sad and difficult time in your lives right now. We are going through the something right now. Your photos are beautiful and always keep the great memories.

Christy Maurer said...

I am so sorry for your loss, but grateful as you are that he isn't suffering. How wonderful that your husband has his flag now to remember his service.

Christopher Lewis said...

So sorry to hear about the loss of your father in law. Your tribute here makes him sound like a great person. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

Jeanette said...

I am so sorry to hear about your loss! It doesn't matter how old they are or how long they've had memory issues there still a parent and it's still hard. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Kathryn Kinsley said...

My first week of spring has been full of 90 degree days. I'm sorry to hear about your father in law.

Jacqui Stewart said...

So sorry to hear about your father in law. I enjoyed reading your posts about him. Sounds like he had a wonderful and full life.

Jennifer EngineerMommy said...

The views of snow during winter are so beautiful. They're really so picturesque. However, I am ready for the warmer weather and bright skies!

Pam said...

I am sorry for the loss of your father in law. It is always hard to lose a family member. Those snow pictures are stunning.

Rebecca Swenor said...

I am sorry to hear about your father in law. You are not alone when you were praying for his suffering to end. Hugs and prayers to you all. Winter this is year is something I am so ready to say goodbye too. Thanks for sharing this awesome heater and so sorry for your loss.

Destany Pingle said...

Sorry for your loss. Our weather has been all over the place. It's cold, it's hot, it's rainy, it's sunny. We never know...

Annemarie LeBlanc said...

My deepest condolences to you and your family. May you find comfort in the thought that your father in law is now with God, free from all pain and suffering. I know he will be sorely missed but as always, trust in God's Wisdom. He has a reason for everything.

Jenny said...

So sorry to gear about your father in law. But what a beautiful snow day. May ge rest peacefully.

my teen guide said...

Everyone loves to complain about winter. It’s cold. The howling wind and below-freezing temperatures chap your skin and numb your face.

You have to wear so many layers just to go outside that getting ready takes like 20 minutes! Then there’s all the ice you have to avoid slipping on, and all the snow you have to shovel just to get anywhere. Yuck!

Alison Rost said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. The photos are beautiful .. a perfect wintery day if there ever was one. He sounds like a wonderful man.

Kita Bryant said...

Losing someone you're close to is never easy. What a wonderful thing that their was honor throughout the entire thing.

WEMAKE7 said...

I am so sorry to hear about your father in law. These photos are beautiful of the snow. I still can't believe we have been getting snow here this late in the month.

Nikka Shae said...

I'm so sorry for your lost. I lost my aunt in January and all I can do it think about all the fun memories I had with her.

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